Sometimes what is standing between us and achieving our dreams is ourselves.The lies that we tell ourselves on a daily basis play a big role on who we are.They make us a little blind to our own amazing capabilities.They bruise our self esteem,crush our self confidence and leave us looking for it everywhere except the very place that we will find it: within ourselves.They create new doubts in our minds and new fears out of thin air. With this in mind I have decided to change the narrative in my head and the big little lies I have continuously allowed to hold me back from being the very best version of myself.
Lie#1 –“If I had more time, I would have done this.” Excuses,more excuses and poor time management are the culprits behind this one! I have learnt that you have to literally make time for the things that matter most to you.It has to be a conscious effort for you to successfully follow through on the things you say you will do.
Lie#2 -“Five more minutes” – this has to do with my morning routine which more often than not I end up messing up by hitting “the snooze button” . Whenever I say “five more minutes “, it’s really more like 30 minutes. There are a couple of things I like to do before I hit the shower and they are carefully designed to fit the 30 minute time frame of which I mostly end up snoozing away.
Lie#3- “I’m not enough” – This is an unconscious mental construct that has held me back on various occasions. I didn’t know this until I had to really evaluate some decisions I had made in the recent past by really looking deep within me (you know when you call yourself for a meeting)and realizing some of the things I had turned down or done had nothing to do with the excuses I had made up in my mind but more to do with how I viewed myself. So I am rewiring my brain by telling myself everyday “I am enough” and determining my own self-worth. I monitor my self-talk, making sure it is supportive and uplifting for myself and others because our words have power so speak kindly to and about yourself because what we feel on the inside manifests itself on the outside.
Lie#4 –“If only I had (fill in the blank), I would be happy/would be able to do this and that. This I have realized sometimes comes from comparing ourselves with others. This is one thing I know can easily hold you back from achieving your goals.”start where you are.Use what you have. Do what you can.” I will give an example of a fashion blog if it is really what you want start with what you have you do not need to wait until you can get an expensive camera use that phone camera and start.make use of the resources you have at hand.
Lie#5- “I need to be happy” I am calling this a lie because we all know being happy all the time is not possible. I am learning to give myself permission to feel as I feel at any given moment. That it is okey to be angry, sad,cry and to really be in the moment because constantly trying to fight it and act strong all the time only makes it all the more difficult.This has personally led me to making even worse mistakes in a bid to mask the pain and be ‘happy’.
As the curtains fall on 2017 what are some of the lies you have or will stop telling yourself?
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