Lessons Learned Chasing Life in My 20s

May 18, 2016


Photography by – Halisee

Life is tough but one thing is sure putting yourself down won’t make it any easier. Being in your 20s is one weird, wild emotional roller coaster. Sure, we all have our bad days everything goes wrong, nothing seems to go your way and you are just not feeling good enough but it stings just a little more when you are trying to get your life together. Everything feels like it’s one mistake away from falling apart. I have been told countless times how life is easier when you are in your 20s like life is one big party because you have less responsibilities. But when you have dreams, goals, ambitions and you are jobless wilting at the weight of your frustrations and expectations is not only possible but an inevitability! It’s been one year since I completed campus and everything is constantly changing some great, some not so good and others downright ugly! Personally, I found it jarring how unprepared I was for the “real world”. Clearly there is SO much that we experience after graduation that I would have been so grateful to learn before that day came. Here are some of the most important things I’ve learned so far some of which I wish someone told me and not just about getting married or having kids which was covered extensively in my sociology lectures! Thank you!
1. Making friends (& maintaining friendships) takes work.
In school we were used to being surrounded by people our age 24/7.In the real world you need to put yourself in situations where there are people your age, with similar interests and make an effort to build meaningful relationships. You’ll also lose touch with some of those you made in school.Blame it on the hustles of life coupled with the different zip codes…
2. Your first (and second, and third) job will not be your dream job. If you think of the first step of life after college it’s probably landing that first job. What no one tells you is that landing your first job is not like choosing where to go to college – you won’t research tons of options and pick the one that’s perfect for you for the next four years. Instead, you’ll try a job that interests you( and that has an opening) learn about that industry , make connections and have a better understanding of what you want to do next.
3. Life isn’t one long upward line- it’s a curvy line of ups and down. Looking at life like a line chart where the goal was to have an upward trajectory has caused me to take setbacks very badly and judge myself harshly during difficult times. I changed my perspective after realizing that life is more of a curvy line with ups, downs and in-betweens- heading forward rather than in an upward trajectory. I still do have my moments and episodes but I can honestly say it’s easier now for me to ride out the storm and even dance in the rain.
4. Learn to be your own support system. You are the one person that will 100% be with you through everything so you need to learn to support yourself and be your own cheerleader. Life keeps throwing us curve balls and admittedly we all need that someone (people) who will pull you out when you are drowning but life happens and people are not always there to save you so you do have to be your own super hero.
5. There are no rules in life; no right way to think or feel. Truth is there’s no rule book out there with a list of what’s right and what’s wrong. There’s no right way to act or long as you listen to your heart and do what feels right to you then you are doing “the right thing”.
6. Celebrate yourself, celebrate your achievements. Set minor goals and smash the hell out of them. There’s a certain high accompanied by accomplishing something you set your mind to no matter how small it is.It keeps you moving and helps you believe in your abilities when in of the best advice I’ve received!
7. Finally, Breathe.
Don’t forget to breathe.
Hang on.
It gets easier.
Then it gets okay.
And then it feels like freedom!!

Thank You for Reading and Sharing loves

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  • Reply Ms. Tico May 18, 2016 at 5:46 pm

    This is a beautiful piece. I, and most of 20 somethings can definitely relate to your experience. Thanks for sharing.

    • Reply Being Rosemary May 19, 2016 at 7:47 am

      Thank you so much hun feels great to know that you can relate and that I am not alone 🙂

  • Reply Stephylately May 18, 2016 at 8:26 pm

    This is a lovely post. Being your own support team is important and thats something I live by. Thanks for sharing.x

    • Reply Being Rosemary May 19, 2016 at 7:51 am

      Thank you Beautiful and I couldnt agree more being your own support system should have been no. one on the list actually quite crucial

  • Reply paula May 19, 2016 at 10:05 am

    and pat yourself on the back for small achievements…..hanks love for sharing.

    • Reply Being Rosemary May 19, 2016 at 5:46 pm

      yes and pat yourself on the back…
      thank you sweerie

  • Reply Joseph Waweru May 20, 2016 at 7:06 am

    “Learn to be your own support system……” Words that would have been of great help few ages ago. Certainly a great read, thank you Rose.

    • Reply Being Rosemary May 20, 2016 at 10:20 am

      Thank you Joseph learning to be your own support system saves you alot..

  • Reply Vivian Kamau January 23, 2017 at 2:38 pm

    Looks like your 20’s made you a whole lot wiser too!! Great read as always love. Keep at it and thank you for the inspiration. 🙂

    • Reply beingrosemary January 24, 2017 at 5:09 am

      aw..thanks hun and anytime ❤❤

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